We got in around 10 am Sunday, which was about 2 hours earlier then as expected, so when we checked in the hotel we had to wait 45 mins for our room which is no biggie, we ate some breakfast that we both regretted, sometimes you want to eat sweet and sometimes you don’t and this was a time we didn’t. We got into our room and took a 3 hour “nap†that really helped, but wasn’t enough to make the day any better.
We arrived at the funeral home and hugged D’s wife Liza and the oldest son J who was doing ok, sad but not crying, as I was hugging him the youngest son D was hugging Pauline and he started to cry than he jumped toward my arms and really broke down crying hard as he death gripped my neck and he cried and cried hard for 10+ minutes… and all I could do was hold him and cry, that so broke my heart as it has never been broke before, I will remember that moment for the rest of my life.
Diesel and his wife belong to a nontraditional Christian church which is made up of about 99% Asians and they have nontraditional way doing things. Â So the funny thing was watching all us non Asians trying to figure out wtf is going on and we was all in the front rows, so we was turning around to see what everyone behind us was doing.
They gave some sermons and told some biblical stories that had nothing to do with the Diesel we knew, but they showed a funny slide show of Diesel from his life that got us all laughing, Pauline and I was in a pic that neither of us remember when and where it was taken, and I was in a few more pictures from the wedding.
After we went to the reception room to eat and talk and just comfort each other, it was so wonderful to see our friends, some of them I have known for over 18 years. Some of us are still in shock; some of us are laughing our way through all this.
Diesel is in his Navy Dress Blues and we put some Crown Royal, popcorn, a DVD, and some BBQ spice in his coffin. D looks pretty good for a dead guy, he looks “stuffed†into the coffin which made us all laugh, and he has a smirk on his face that as one of us said “that he just won his last argument†which was so him.
We tried to get an honor guard from the US Navy here, but found out today not enough of them have passports and Canada wasn’t too keen on allowing the US Military into Canada with weapons, so we will have a bugler playing taps and they will do the Flag ceremony.
- Mood:
exhausted
crushed
calm