Category Archives: Everyday Stuff

Just an area for what I’m doing on an everyday basis.

Life Update

Since we’ve had to get stationary jobs, it has been a big life change.

One big major adjustment is that since Sept ’07, we’ve worked from home, and even though it took 6 months to get use it, we are now use to spending a lot of time together. This weekend is the first days off we’ve had together since Xmas & Thanksgiving. It had been driving me nuts. Feels good to be home together.

I have a p/t job position and until last weekend, had a 2nd p/t seasonal job on the weekends. That was not easy schedule wise, but doable. Looking to see if a full time position opens where I’m at or get a different job….need the full time. I really do like where I’m at….everyone has been very nice and I seem to fit in.

Hubby is working at a place that actually appreciates him. He fits in with the sense of humor there and they love the work he does. I’m very happy about that.
We are very happy that we are in the Pacific NW for all of this, but we are missing Oregon.

Washington is nice, but it is different…..drivers are more aggressive then Oregon, and people in Oregon aren’t more slobs, but don’t seem to care as much on how they look when they go to the store. At least around here, I see people more “dressed up” for store…..they are less laid back. Most people here are friendly (a LOT better then Florida ever was) but not quite Oregon friendly. Once you’ve been in Oregon for awhile, you can notice the difference.

Maybe it the area we are in, more urban and more military.

Overall, things are still adjusting, tight, but doable.

A Very Late Car Update

I decided on the pontiac vibe in Dec. They knocked 300 off of it, that brought it very close to kelly blue book and what is even better, we got 2.75% on interest! After 4yrs, we’ll only pay 335 in interest….so very pleased.

It may be the now standard boring design, but it is bright red and I’m getting about 25mpg, and it has a bit more zip then I expected. For the holidays, we got me a new stereo for it, so now I can use my ipod and it has blue tooth for my phone, perfect. =)

It isn’t my first choice, if I didn’t need to be practical I would’ve gotten another Jeep Wrangler, 2 door, soft top this time. But had to be practical. And with as many errands as I do for us, being practical has paid on on the gas…..I’ve already put a bunch of miles on it.

Since it is red, we named it the Red Baroness….which works great, since my great-grandpa Schinkel was a pilot instructor in WWI Germany and probably taught the Red Baron how to fly. =) My uncle has his pilot license.

The Perils of Car Shopping

Well, with the changes that we have had to make the last few months, we are going to be located in one spot for a few years.

We both had to take on brick & mortar jobs and for the 1st time in many, many years we now need another car. ToRn is working M-F 7-4ish if he isn’t doing OT and lately my shifts have been 2-6….so our schedule is limited.

We need something practical, so it is going to be for me since I do 90% of our errands and such, and that’ll help save the wear and tear on our Jeep Wrangler. So we want good gas mileage, reliable, something that is easily paid off in a 2-3yrs and priced that if something major happens to it, we can just walk away.

If we didn’t need something practical, I would so go for another Wrangler….love our Jeep.

Since I handle our books and it is for me, I’m looking at small cars and I’m the one going out to look at them first….most have no personality, just bland cookie cutter styles. So I was thinking of PT Cruiser or a VW Beetle.

Well, most VW Beetles are stick (never learned to drive one yet….on my bucket list) and I feel they wanting too much for the ones I’m finding….which are from around 2000. No car from 2000, should be costing 5k+ unless in excellent condition. But they do love their VW Beetles around here, so I’m not too surprised. And I know I can get a different car with better gas mileage.

They also LOVE their Wranglers….I’ve seen those with up to 200k miles on them and still asking about 10k for them….crazy.

Found 2 different PT Cruisers at 2 different dealers….one a small lot, another at a Ford dealer. The small lot…didn’t seem to think that passenger door not opening from the inside, dash board lights not working or headlights needing buffing weren’t safety issues. To me, those are safety issues and I’m not budging. On top of it, the ac didn’t work….that is a non starter for me. Spent too many years in Indiana & Florida when my ac went out in my cars/trucks…not doing it again.

The Ford dealer, the car was a bit beat up on the outside, but the previous owner had done all the preventative maintenance, it drove nice and after doing some research, decided to see about getting it. When I got in, it had been sold to a whole sale dealer…no biggie. When I asked about the one of the other 2 they on had on the lot, said they had sold the one within the price I was looking for, but had a convertible one at a bit more. Well, that convertible one was a sweet car…under 55k miles, leather seats, seat warmers all the fun stuff, BUT it got less gas mileage due to the turbo.

Now, the sales rep & sales manager I was originally dealing with was not in. Ended up with a different set of guys. That sales rep was nice guy and you can tell he was new. The sales manager was WAY too damn pushy.

I told sales manager how much I wanted to spend on car payments a month and for how long….oh yeah, he got the payments down….after spreading out to 7yrs and that is with him figuring the price at $2k more then it was listed!!! Now it could’ve been a honest mistake, but when I asked about what other cars they had on the lot with better gas mileage, acted like he didn’t here me, keep trying to push the convertible on me. So I’m doubting it was…like I wasn’t going to do the research…WTF?!?

I’m like if I wanted to spend that kind of money and not get the gas mileage I’m looking for, I’ll get me the Wrangler I want. He would NOT listen, then….this really bugs the hell out me…..he tries to get me to sign for it and have my husband come in and sign, just because I handle everything like this. I’m like, NO, I will NOT sign anything without discussing it with my husband. I had to say this 4 times! Until I had to put my foot down harder then I should’ve had to. This is where my family stubbornness comes in, the more to try and push me when I’m not sure that is what I want, the more I resist…..just like an Army Mule.

Even though ToRn trusts me and would’ve done something like that, we are partners…to me, to do that is to disrespect him and our relationship. I will not do anything like that without discussing it with him, just like I expect him to with me.

When I left there, I was just annoyed, when I was driving home, I got really pissed off. That sales manager was being a fricking bully and, frankly, using that I’m a woman without my husband there to try and get me to agree to something that I was not sure about.

I decided to give that dealer one more shot with dealing my originally sales rep., see if I can use to my advantage. I was just going to talk to him privately about it, but that other sales manager was there, try to greet me a long lost friend and as if he was doing me a favor. I just lost it, I made a hell of scene in front of about 20 people….a lot of them other sales people, told him I didn’t appreciate him trying to bully me, disrespecting me by trying to get me to sign after I told him I need to discuss it with my husband, that he was trying to take advantage me for being a woman. Told him, I told him exactly what I wanted to spend, the gas mileage, length/amount of payment and that he didn’t listen.

Oh, they knew I wasn’t happy. The sales rep I was dealing with, was very understanding, found out for the price range I want, that is usually if they only get in by trade, so he is going to keep an eye out for me this weekend. Normally they sell to wholesalers. Which I understand, business is business.

Meet briefly with the other sales rep, he has only been doing this for 1yr. Told him, listen to your customers, listen to what they saying and looking for….don’t push them into something. I’ve been in retail for about 20yrs, you don’t do that….take care of your customers and they will take care of you. Told him, don’t be a bully like his sales manager, who helps give car sales peoeple a bad name.

I really don’t expect anything from them, but if by slim chance they get something, I’ve kept my options open.

I’ve found a VW Passet, a Pontiac VIbe & a Suzuki at 2 other dealers that I’m going to look into more. So screw it, I’m going for the gas mileage & reliability more then anything. Leaning to the Pontiac Vibe because the gas mileage is the best of the three, they have listed closer to Kelly Blue Book and, unlike the other 2, a bright red…..if the design doesn’t have personality, at least the color can.

I won’t mind a Toyota or Honda but those high theft targets, so they are off the table.

May try and contact them to see about testing driving the Vibe Monday. Either way, I have other options.

Social Media & The New Feminist Wave

What an age we are now living in when it comes to communication. Con wise, we seemed to have become more partisan, but there is a greater awareness of issues that didn’t seem to exist before.

Looking at it through the issues that are normally swept aside because they are considered “women” issues and not humanity issues, social media has been huge.

I love the fact that a new generation of women and discovering feminism and learning and fighting against the misconception that it is about man-hating. That ignorance about feminism as always driven me nuts….

Women who have grown up being told by their parents that they can be anything, do anything are finding that the majority of the other half of the race doesn’t believe that. That it is institutionalized. They are finding that with social media they don’t have to be forced into silencing what they have experienced (rape, sexual harassment and now domestic violence (DV)). Many things that have been swept under the rug and ignored. They are tired of the double standards, the slut shaming, blaming the victim…they are making society notice them and the social ills we have and what they face.

If you would’ve told me a few years ago that colleges will be finally forced to face the rape culture or the due to the Rice video, that society is finally facing our DV culture I would’ve said “I hope so, but don’t hold your breath”.

It does bother me when people try to pigeon hole feminism. Just because you enjoy, celebrate your sexuality doesn’t mean you can’t be a feminist. Which some argue about Beyonce or Nicki Minaj…saying they help with the objectification of women. When you are controlling your own images and not allowing it to define you, you aren’t allowing others to objectify you. You are celebrating one of the many things that makes us human…..we are intellects, sisters, mothers, professionals, daughters, wives and yes, sexual beings. We should not be forced to deny that or any other part of us.

I love that we have such a diverse group of women finally standing up and claiming their feminism. From Beyonce (which is great on getting more and more younger women to explore and learn about it), Emma Watson speaking at the UN, Taylor Swift finally realizing and claiming the feminist label and men who freely claim the label, such as Joseph Gordon-Levitt.

The term Feminist has been so twisted and misused that it gives me hope to see being finally reclaimed for what it actually means :

“the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities” (Merriam-Webster)

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who the hell wants to read our tweets? 2014-09-13

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