My position in my new location has a lot of people in my department & the one next to me, that have been there for 9-20+yrs….
As most businesses, we are going though more changes and a few of the old timers are bitter.
One just complains……everyone know that is all he does. That no matter what, he will find something to bitch about.
He loves to antagonize people about the jackass in office. And kept making smart ass comments about #MeToo.
Well, last week, he went too far. He was going on, that maybe there should be a check list of what a man would get from a woman depending on what he pays for on a date.
I just turned around and said: “I had a friend thrown out of a moving car because she wouldn’t give it up You have NO idea what it is like to be a woman.”
(He had one hell of look of shock on his face)
“To grow up knowing that men can overpower you at anytime and live with the threat of rape in the back of your head.
Closest you would feel that, is if you were in prison…then you would know what it is like to live the threat of rape in the back of your head everyday.
Do you know how the hell it makes me feel that out of all my closest friends, that I’m the only one that has not been sexually molested or assaulted?
Do you know how the hell it made me feel to have obscenities yelled at me at the age of 12 while walking my dog?
Having a 20yr old trying to pick up me up at the age of 13??
The ONLY 2 times I’ve ever used my father’s rank was to get guys to back off.
That I have friends that had flash backs when their daughter hit the age when they were molested and didn’t want their husbands to touch them. You have NO idea!
You want to know why women go to the bathroom in groups, because in the back of their mind they know it is safer.”
He is one that overrides when you are talking and I think I had him speechless….just stared at me and said, no I don’t know. When he started to say, that I shouldn’t have been by myself at the age of 12….
I’m like “I was WALKING my dog in my neighborhood……my family taught me to take care of myself and be independent. You do not hold a 12yr old’s hand…..and it is usually friends of family and family members that get to kids”
wth?!?
I can take a lot and joke a lot…..I’ve handled “boys clubs”…….I’m not exactly innocent and can have a dirty and very honest mouth, but he went too far.
He hasn’t said too much to me since.
Then the other day, he threw one of coworker under the bus to a customer.
Even if they are always missing up, you do NOT do that. When when he says that “I don’t care anymore” I just wanted to say, “then why are the hell are you still here?”
Hoping to have a chance to speak to one of my managers about that. I just want them to talk to him and get him to stop doing that.
He is a good worker & I don’t think he is actually a bad person, just likes to shock….but I can only tolerate so much ignorance.