Monthly Archives: June 2006

I need a vacation. I’m so far behind on emails and making entries, I bet everyone thinks I want nothing to do with them. =(

Work hasn’t help with stress. Which will be another vent for later………..

It has been a very stressful week or two, but I think everyone is finally starting to get use to each other. When I came home Saturday, every one was watching a movie and had dessert. Which is a great sign, since I’ve been coming home to someone in the corner or writing sentences. Well, I had come home Sunday and everyone was in trouble……lying, not doing what they were told, Heather being a bully………icks. I just wanted to cry. All I wanted was a happy summer.

While 2 of them were in a corner and another pulling weeds for punishment, Harold and I talked about what we had wanted for the kids. The talks that may mean something to them one day, the trips, having fun. We talked about our experiences growing up, being picked on and all the stuff. It had been such a bad day; we decided that we were going to start all over this morning.

We brought the kids out and told them. We tried to talk to them about standing up for themselves (they get picked on a lot). We really talked to Charles about standing up for himself against Heather, who is a year older. She will get into these moods and just goes after him; she is pretty much a bully. Yes, we know it may be part of the ADD, but the problem we see is that she as never been held accountable for her actions and he has never defended himself. So we told him if she doesn’t stop after he tries to get away and he tells her to stop, to hit her in the arm.

He is great brother to both his sisters, he puts up with a lot, can take a lot of the hits that they will do, he is very helpful with Cheyanne, and will defend them and explain them to people. But maybe he has been too nice to Heather and that is the problem.

I don’t know how much that they understood about it. We told them that they need to tell all the adults in school and their grandparents, but if it doesn’t stop that you may have to take a stand. Told them that they will get in trouble but that it is something that they have to be willing to face. But once they stand up, they more then likely will left alone after that.

So Harold has been trying to talk to our nephew on standing up for himself, and we are trying to get them to think before they act. We are also trying to get Heather to hold her head high. You could be just talking to her and she isn’t in trouble, and she drops her head like she is. Tonight she told me she doesn’t know why she does that, or frown a lot and that she’ll still get picked on. I told her it doesn’t happen over night, it takes time.

When we talked to my folks last night, we suggested that the kids should take martial arts. Yes, the Heather doesn’t need to learn more ways on how to pick on her brother and sister anymore. But martial arts are great for learning self control and self esteem. And that is what they really need.

Today we went to the zoo and they had fun. We only had to correct them twice and that was for cutting people off. I hate kids that just push their way in front of you and cut people off, unless they are 5 and under their parents should be working on their manners. We were not going to have that from our kids and other then 2 times at the beginning, they did very well. They also listened about not screaming and making noise at the animals. I told them, that it was like me going up to them and screaming in their ears. So they understood that pretty well.

They went swimming today, until Heather decided to attack Charles. Harold saw the whole thing. She ended up spending time in a corner, sweeping the floors and doing some math and going to bed early. We are trying to get it through to her that when she gets into one of her moods that she needs to tell us and get away from her brother and sister.

I told Harold that all we can do is to keep reinforcing it.

The other two got to spend a lot more time in pool and watch a movie.

Even with the flair up, I was happy on how the day went because I believed we handled the flair up pretty well.

We haven’t told the kids, but we ordered some legos. I could not believe that I couldn’t find any regular legos. All I could find is specialty ones and we really want them to work on their imagination……….not coloring in the lines all the time, tv or xbox. According to my update, we should be getting the legos tomorrow.

That is it for now; I have to work early tomorrow……icks….. Looking forward to my day off Friday. Harold and I have a park in mind for the kids if it doesn’t rain…….keep your fingers crossed.

The oldest two have been caught in lies.  So we are trying to teach them how bad it is to lie with putting them in a corner, writing sentences & calistics.  I should say Harold has been having them do that since he is home with them all day.  It is tearing us up, but we want to nip it in the bud.  We don’t want them to follow the path their mother took.

We worry about stopping the lying and we worry about whether we are doing more harm then good.  Harold is the harder of us two, the kids know that I’m pissed. We also try talking to them.  Even though they are in trouble I let them know that I love them before bed and I have them tell me why we are doing this.  I don’t want them to think that we hate them.

Boy, I feel like shit.  And I know Harold feels worst then me cause he is the one that has dishing out the punishment.  =(